Everyone goes through hard times in their lives and many a time due to their own mistakes or misjudgments. It is tough to face the consequences and deal with all the rollercoaster of emotions one expeiences with life and black women are pretty notorious for keeping these matters private. They may talk to their girlfriends or even relatives about what happened with Mr. Man or how they made some silly completely-out-of-character decision but black women will NEVER want this business out in the street.
It’s mostly out of pride in that they don’t really like to appear, or feel, out of control, vulnerable, or stupid, especially when it involves a bad situation in a romantic relationship. While black women, like most women, like a little attention, black women never want their sensitive matters in the spotlight . They never want their name associated with any type of gossip.
Some higher profile examples of this reality are the love lives of Janet Jackson and Beyonce Knowles. Before Jermaine Dupree, Janet was married to Rene Elizondo, Jr. for several years, and though everyone knew he was her boo, no one knew they were actually married until the divorce came around. Why she kept that a secret? We don’t necessarily get why, but we all know that if you are a celeb, the media likes to orchestrate your life, and surely Miss Janet was not going to have that. In Beyonce’s case with super famous rapper and oft-collaborator Jay-Z, neither one of them felt they had to confirm their relationship or give any details about their ridiculously obvious 6-year romance! They even married in April, and STILL have not said anything! Though it seems kind of silly, why should Beyonce confirm it? Probably because she wants to be known by her grace as a lady and as a superstar entertainer with lasting global appeal.
Although it’s not always all about pride and hiding personal drama, or in a celebrity’s case, protecting your personal life and reputation from the relentless tabloids, black women are often raised to have strong personal dignity. This means always being classy and not caught up in gossip circles. In magazines, on television, and celebrity websites, you don’t see very many black women celebs, but if you do, they seldom will be in any kind of wild or drunken state. Of course there have been exceptions with some black women ending up with jail time or a DUI (ie. Lil Kim, Vivica Fox), and you do know who has gotten married or had a baby (ie. Halle Berry, Gabrielle Beauvais-Nilon), there will probably never be a black Lindsey Lohan or Paris Hilton. Black women just do not roll like that!
Aside from the entertainment world, you will notice the same sort of “togetherness and grace” from black women on college campuses, in churches or other organizations, or even in the workplace. Black women could be going through a storm, or even a hurricane, and you would never know it. Black women are rarely going to want their “drama” public because they don’t want that to be associated with their personas. Most of us want to be seen as mature role models who are always making wise decisions.
PS Have you ever wondered where Black people go for celeb gossip about black people? Visit this site: http://www.bossip.com/about/
Is there a different where you’re white or black, I don’t think so!
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Yes there is a difference if you are white or black. No one said that that reality is a bad thing or anything to be ashamed of or feel uncomfortable about. But absolutely there is a difference when you are white or black or any other race. Each experience is different and that is why we are writing this blog.
A Celebrity is fair game
In the celebrity world not everything is as it seems most of the time. For example if a celebrity is simply seen with someone it is automatically assumed they are lovers. Most of the celebrity’s relationships are generated by the media. Media generated love affairs! Many celebrities rarely read most of the gossip written about them, because if they responded to it that would take up all of their days 24/7. As for Rene and Janet that is another thing I doubt not only because I know better for a personal reason, but the media managed to generate their divorce papers, but never a marriage certificate, have you ever wondered why? It is a matter of court records when I claimed to be Janet’s husband he told the judge he was her live-in boyfriend which was perjury or a conspiracy which he was convicted of none. Have you ever wonder why? Then you would know the real secret! All I have to say in this response is it is not as it seems. Celebrities are not a black or white issue, they are simple fair game to the media, the media can say whatever they please without the fear of being sued for slander, this goes with the territory of celebrity status and gossip sells.
Frank Paul Gambino
I just do not agree, cause we are all God’s children and color of skin makes no different unless we act different. I spent alot of my life in the military and both races became friends and we depended on each other with out life. I’m not female so can not speak for them! Its the actions that tell me there is a different! Do you understand what I’m trying to say?
there is a difference, black and white people come from different cultures and have had different experiences that make them think, and act the way they do. stop trying to downplay the fact that there is a difference. i’m not saying that it’s good, and i’m not saying that it’s bad, i’m just saying that it simply IS.
these celebs have to understand that when you decide that you want to become a public figure, nothing is off limits. the public feels that they own you so to speak. there’s nothing wrong with keeping your private life private which is why i can respect janets decison not to broadcast her marriage to that dude, however i feel like beyonce is the fakest ever, for years she’s made no comment on her relationship with jay, then when she’s doing a project and she wants the public’s support she sings like a canary. the difference between these two is that janet has been consistent while beyonce has been wishy/washy.
love,
the dirty one
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